Married Couples Have Less Sex 

23 Mar

A recent study says married couples are having less sex. On average 51 times per year, a little more than once per week. This is 9 times less than they did two decades ago. Ironically, the numbers remained steady among unpartnered/unmarried individuals.

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Read full article here.

Soccer Player Shoutouts Wife & Girlfriend! 

21 Mar

Have you seen this video?! Moral of the story: Don’t have a girlfriend if you have a wife – unless they are one and the same. 

Congrats Tyrese Gibson!

3 Mar

Congrats are in order for R&B Crooner, Tyrese Gibson who recently tityresegibsoned the knot on Valentines Day. Gibson announced the news to his fans via Instagram.

The couple reportedly met through mutual friends shortly after Gibson shared his open letter to his future wife in 2015. The new bride, Samantha Lee (Schwalenberg ) is a Social Worker and philanthropy professional.

We are here for this …. Congratulations to the happy couple, we wish you well!

Another One Bites the Dust!

20 Feb

You made it through Red Tuesday, which was one week before Valentines Day; and the day when you were most likely to get dumped. And you made it through Valentines Day, now what?!

I personally am not a fan of Valentines Day, I respect the effort to set aside a day for love, but honestly shouldn’t we all be more conscious about showing the one we love how much we admire and care foValentines boxr them at any time? Do we really need for society to “set aside” a day for us? Many say NO. And for that reason, they purposely rebel and don’t recognize Valentines Day at all.

If this is you, I suggest the following to keep the love and romance alive 24/7, 365:

1) Random Acts of Kindness. When your mate least expect it, surprise them with something nice. If they like flowers – send their favorite floral arrangement to their job or have a nice bouquet waiting for them when they get home from work; if they like the spa – give them a spa certificate, a gift card to their favorite coffee shop or department store, the list goes on, be creative;

2) Date Nights. I can not stress enough the importance of not just date nights, but a couple spending quality time together; not talking about the kids or the bills. But sharing your heart with your mate – highs, lows, disappointments, accomplishments, etc.;

3) Words of Affirmation. Saying nice, kind words to your mate is gold. A little goes a long way. Your words should be authentic and from the heart – not even mushy. But simple affirmations like “I appreciate you”, “You look very nice today”, “I like the cologne/perfume you’re wearing”, and “thank you for _____”;

4) A hug and a kiss. What man or woman doesn’t appreciate an unexpected hug and kiss? This is a simple way to show your love and appreciation for your mate –  displays of affection cost nothing but effort; and

5) Listen to them. This is easier said than done for most of us. Often time, our mate simply want to be heard. There is no charge associated with listening. I was taught, we were given two ears and one mouth for a reason – we should be listening twice as much as we talk. Selah.

Finally, be random and opt for the surprise element. But remember to KISS: keep it simple.

What’s in a Name?

1 Feb

When I got married several years ago, I was delighted to take on my husband’s last name. I felt like I was moving up on the alphabet chart from being down with the Smiths, to up with the Catos.

I recently heard a discussion where a wife asked her fiance would he take on her last name. The fiance was so impressed and in love with his soon to be wife’s family, that he agreed to this arrangement; that he would change his last name to hers once they were married. Wedding Pic

To each his own way, but this definitely is not for me. What are your thoughts?

Ephesians 5:31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”

I Saw my Friend’s Husband Having Dinner with Another Woman…

21 Jan

Question: I saw my friend’s husband having dinner with another woman.  What should I do?

My answer: Nothing.

cheating-spouse-surveillanceA few months ago, I saw a married man I know at a gas station with another woman. Initially, I thought, “I know this man, I know his wife and the woman he is with right now is not his wife”. For me, this situation was a no-brainer. This is not my business, not my concern – keep it moving. First and foremost, I realize that things aren’t always what they seem.  For all I know, this woman could have been his cousin, his niece, a co-worker, etc. The exchange could have been totally innocent. Second, even if infidelity on the husband’s part was true, I have no idea what their marriage arrangement or agreement is. Quite honestly some wives look the other way when their husband’s cheat and don’t want to know about his indiscretions. Third, I didn’t know the wife well enough to discuss such a sensitive topic. couple-having-dinner

Back to the original question, “I saw my friend’s husband having dinner with another woman. What should I do?” In this situation, the individual saw their friend’s husband in a what appears to be compromising situation. If this friend is a really close friend, they probably already know a great deal about the person’s relationship status. Therefore, simply casually mentioning that you saw her husband at dinner should be enough. If she wants more detail, share without accusing the husband of anything and let your friend take it from there. Who knows, this could have been a business meeting with a client.

Remember things aren’t always what the seem.

Social Media is Ruining My Relationship!

7 Jan

The other day, I was listening to a local radio show during my morning commute and the discussion for the day was about a comment that someone sent to the Show Hosts stating that, “…social media is ruining my relationship.”

In summation, the person was very insecure that her boyfriend had so many female friends on Facebook and Instagram; especially since he was – in her words – always posting suggestive photos and enjoyed the attention he gets from the women in the form of “likes.”

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What are your thoughts? Is the boyfriend wrong for enjoying this type of attention? Or is the girlfriend being overly sensitive?

 

 

No Longer a Bridesmaid!

31 Dec

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This is Bre. She had been in a relationship for years; however, after reading Terry Cato’s book, No Longer a Bridesmaid! she decided to examine both the dynamics of her relationship and assess herself as a future wife.

Through the book, she gained both romantic and spiritual guidance which gave her inspiration to prepare herself to become a wife. As a result of applying Terry’s advice, Bre married the love of her life and just recently celebrated 2 years of marital bliss.

Get your copy today.

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Are you driven by your head or your heart? Or maybe by something else? How do you balance the conflicting forces for how to be?

8 Dec

This one is worth re-sharing.

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I’m sure you’ve heard the adage, “I was thinking with my heart and not my head.” At some point in our lives, I think we can all relate to this. Maybe a relationship we should have walked away from, but for some reason we made the decision to stick it out a little while longer; we’re not quite sure why, but for some reason we were compelled to hang in there. Maybe we loaned a friend or relative money and deep down inside we know that we shouldn’t have, but there was something that we could not quite explain that compelled us to loan money to someone who we know we should not have. So, how do you balance the conflicting forces for how to be? I once heard someone say, “let your conscience be your guide.” Relatively speaking this is true – we should make decisions that we can…

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Relationship Hot Topics

21 Nov

As we approach the season of love, (Christmas through Valentine’s Day) where a lot of couples historically get engaged, if I was a betting person – I would bet that half of the couples who will get engaged and then married do not discuss these critical topics BEFORE getting married:

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  1. Finances – who will manage the finances, how will bank accounts be set-up and managed;
  2. Sex – their view on sex (frequency, preferences/likes, dislikes);
  3. Children – how many they will have and/or how they will raise them;
  4. Faith or lack of – their belief system and commitment to their faith;
  5. Career aspirations/dreams/goals – some people actually talk about their career aspirations with their future spouse, but most fail to discuss their dreams and wants.

If this is you – you have become recently engaged to be married, talk about everything. Don’t just cover the obvious basics: the past, family dynamics, and failed relationships. Discuss sensitive issues, such as your spending habits and view on money/finances; how many children you want and how you will discipline them, how you will introduce them to your faith, etc.; and don’t be afraid to share your dreams with your future spouse.

Communication is KEY in marriage. The foundation for good communication should be laid long before you say “I do”.

 

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