Tamar Braxton is Quitting Music to Save Her Marriage

25 Sep

Songstress, Tamar Braxton is reportedly quitting music to save her marriage to Music Executive, Vincent Herbert.

As a married woman, I understand and respect her decision. Quite often in marriage, there are sacrifices that have to be made to make the union work. None of us fully knows what has happened behind closed doors. I’m sure this was a difficult decision for Braxton. However, family should always come first.

We wish her all the best!

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Who Deserves the Honor?

15 Sep

Her stepdad pays for the wedding, but her “biological dad” is bestowed the honor of walking her down the isle. This is wrong on so many levels.

Your thoughts?

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Relationships-411: Couple of the Week

28 Aug

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Wedding Date: April 11, 2015

How we met: Online (Christian Mingle)

Advice: In marriage, you bear each other’s burdens. If one partner is unhappy, it hurts the other. That’s why it’s so important that you are fulfilled. Seek to know God’s calling on your life and pursue it! Don’t play it safe for fear of hurting your marriage. The best gift you can give your spouse is you happy and whole. They’ll experience your joy too!


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If you would like to be featured in our “Couple of the Week” spotlight send an email to, info@terrycato.com and put Couple of the Week inquiry in the email subject line. Thanks! 

Why Millennials Cheat

10 Aug

A recent study asserts that Millennials cheat for two primary reasons: 1) they feel that their partner is not satisfying their needs and 2) they want more independence.

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Preschool Sweethearts Marry

3 Jul

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All Male Bachelorettes for One Bride 

3 Jun

Some things are static when it comes to weddings. The bride will wear a white dress; there’s something borrowed, something new and something blue. But what is a bride to do when she realizes that all of her closest friends are men?!

Check out what this Engineering student did.

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Husband Defends Wife Against Intruder

29 May

Kudos to an 82-year-old former weightlifting champion who successfully subdued and held a would-be intruder until police came. The former champion and hero didn’t feel accolades were necessary stating that he was doing what he felt he should, “….protecting his home and wife from harm …”.

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For Sale: Virginity 

26 May

Just read a news report about a teen, who has decided to auction off her virginity with hopes to make enough money for college tuition and possibly a car. 

As a mother, I have so many thoughts I don’t quite know where to start… my question, what have we become? 

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Relationships 101

25 May

The millennials had a lot to say during this episode of Real Talk w/Terry.

How to Keep Marriage Interesting

12 May

Debra WingerHow to Keep Marriage Interesting, According to Debra Winger

Belinda Luscombe
May 12, 2017


Debra Winger’s new movie, The Lovers, is about a long marriage that has seen better times. The actor, thrice an Oscar nominee, has been married to actor-director Arliss Howard since 1996, which is an eon in showbiz-years. In this interview with TIME, Winger shares what she thinks makes marriage work.

Your new movie is about a less than optimal long marriage. Are you generally a fan of long marriages? I only know of one deeply, my own. I don’t know if I’m a fan of others. I’ve got nothing against it as long as not a decision you make once and then never revisit it. I definitely think it’s a decision that needs to be revisited as if never decided before.

You’ve been married 20-plus years. Any tips for keeping it fresh? Anybody that would say anything about how they understand how to make love stay would have to be called a liar or misguided. We live in a universe that is based on impermanence. Anything that gets created gets destroyed. That’s the whole definition of life. Nothing escapes change. So why do we think we could create such a permanent institution as marriage? It just seems inorganic if looked at that way. The intention is to stay awake, stay alive, keep loving, keep lit up, keep being able to light up the other one. Those are the real tricks. That and some pixie dust.

There’s a scene in the movie in a grocery store where your character says to her husband something like ‘You’re looking the wrong way.’ Is that what we often do to those we are closest to? When you’re in a waking state, in a relationship, often it’s right when we fall in love. Everything is so alive and we can feel our body in a new way and we see things and it’s so exciting. And then you fall asleep and you think it’s the relationship but really this is an inside job. Our characters had something in the past we clearly lit each other up. We’re not able to see what’s behind us as anything but the past. But that’s also just the trick of life, not just marriage. It’s great that you have a scrapbook of your wedding and you celebrate anniversaries but it’s just empty if you’re not including it as part of a continuum.

Is there a cure for our desire for novelty? No. I think that’s the human spirit, who wants to see new vistas and find new food to eat; it’s probably been since the dawn of time. If you look at the same tree every day, you might want to see another leaf. But I don’t think that the outside appearances is what gives us the experience [of novelty]. I don’t think it’s about another person. We seek out someone else because we are not being seen. Everyone wants to see and be seen wants to love and be loved. And sometimes we go out looking but we’re really just looking for ourselves. ‘Can you see me? Am I here?’ And [when someone really sees us] we get lit up and we think ‘It must be that person.’ We spend our young life pursuing people that reflect us back to ourselves.

Do you understand the appeal of an affair? Yes, absolutely. The yearning for depth when you start to live a horizontal life: you wake up in the morning, have your coffee, go to work, come home, watch something. You’re accruing experiences or doing time. And then suddenly something happens that takes you down deep. That can catch you off guard if you’re not diligent because you’ll think it’s the thing, when really it’s just the yearning for depth. And I guess I must have believed it can recur with the same person, because I got married.

You have a pretty serious sex montage in this film. This isn’t a question. I just wanted to give you props. I didn’t have a real question about [doing] it because I wanted to bring all the parts of the relationship. You know if you’re going to bring the sad parts you’d be better be ready to do an honest day’s work and bring what the compelling thing is. I guess I do know this one thing about being with a person for a long time: different things draw you to each other. Sometimes you’re so happy you have your best friend to talk to. You’re telling stories and talking about your day and there’s just not anyone you would talk to in that way. And sometimes you’re just comfortable with someone, like it’s O.K. to be silent with them or that you’re liking the same things. But I cannot imagine a relationship that doesn’t have a piece of that pie or puzzle that is physical attraction. However it changes through the years or becomes more or less or waxes or wanes, it’s there. And it brought you together and it’s a real part of human relationships and anyone who thinks it dissipates with age is not trying hard enough, isn’t exploiting it fully enough because I have not found that. There’s just so many ways to Sunday.

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