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Over the Top Promposals 

27 Apr

When is too much, just too much?! The latest promposal to go viral is a young man giving his friend a pair of $700+ Louboutins and perfume, and a sign that read, “if the shoe fit makeup your mind”. I personally, would have liked the sign to read, “if the shoe fits, then wear it” … but hey, what do I know? Other than, a lot has changed since I was in high school. Continue reading

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I Saw my Friend’s Husband Having Dinner with Another Woman…

21 Jan

Question: I saw my friend’s husband having dinner with another woman.  What should I do?

My answer: Nothing.

cheating-spouse-surveillanceA few months ago, I saw a married man I know at a gas station with another woman. Initially, I thought, “I know this man, I know his wife and the woman he is with right now is not his wife”. For me, this situation was a no-brainer. This is not my business, not my concern – keep it moving. First and foremost, I realize that things aren’t always what they seem.  For all I know, this woman could have been his cousin, his niece, a co-worker, etc. The exchange could have been totally innocent. Second, even if infidelity on the husband’s part was true, I have no idea what their marriage arrangement or agreement is. Quite honestly some wives look the other way when their husband’s cheat and don’t want to know about his indiscretions. Third, I didn’t know the wife well enough to discuss such a sensitive topic. couple-having-dinner

Back to the original question, “I saw my friend’s husband having dinner with another woman. What should I do?” In this situation, the individual saw their friend’s husband in a what appears to be compromising situation. If this friend is a really close friend, they probably already know a great deal about the person’s relationship status. Therefore, simply casually mentioning that you saw her husband at dinner should be enough. If she wants more detail, share without accusing the husband of anything and let your friend take it from there. Who knows, this could have been a business meeting with a client.

Remember things aren’t always what the seem.

Relationship Hot Topics

21 Nov

As we approach the season of love, (Christmas through Valentine’s Day) where a lot of couples historically get engaged, if I was a betting person – I would bet that half of the couples who will get engaged and then married do not discuss these critical topics BEFORE getting married:

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  1. Finances – who will manage the finances, how will bank accounts be set-up and managed;
  2. Sex – their view on sex (frequency, preferences/likes, dislikes);
  3. Children – how many they will have and/or how they will raise them;
  4. Faith or lack of – their belief system and commitment to their faith;
  5. Career aspirations/dreams/goals – some people actually talk about their career aspirations with their future spouse, but most fail to discuss their dreams and wants.

If this is you – you have become recently engaged to be married, talk about everything. Don’t just cover the obvious basics: the past, family dynamics, and failed relationships. Discuss sensitive issues, such as your spending habits and view on money/finances; how many children you want and how you will discipline them, how you will introduce them to your faith, etc.; and don’t be afraid to share your dreams with your future spouse.

Communication is KEY in marriage. The foundation for good communication should be laid long before you say “I do”.

 

Public Shaming: To Shame or Not to Shame

8 Aug

photo1I’ve recently seen these images floating around social media. I’m not sure how effective spousal public shaming is, but I definitely got a laugh out of this.

Your thoughts on a spouse or ex-spouse public shaming the other.

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REAL TALK W/TERRY: GUY PANEL PART 2

6 Mar

I recently had the opportunity to have a conversation with a couple of guys to discuss being single and dating in Silicon Valley. The first part of the show originally aired a few weeks ago, part 2 of the conversation is now available. Some of the questions the guys answered were: what is love, why are men afraid of commitment, is it okay for a woman to approach you and do strong women intimidate men? And more!

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Real Talk w/Terry: Ask Terry

14 Dec

I’m pleased to announce that I will be periodically doing “Ask Terry” segments as part of Real Talk w/Terry. Quite often I get asked relationship questions via email, text message, and direct messages. As appropriate, I will share these questions with you.

Catch this episode of Real Talk w/Terry where I devote the entire show to questions that were discussed as part of a panel discussion at a Battle of the Sexes networking event that I hosted.

Ask Terry 11-25-15

25 Nov

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This one, I saw on a Facebook friend’s page and I couldn’t resist sharing. Basically, there is a young lady involved in a relationship who desires to be married, but has been given a choice: 1) we can get married but no kids or 2) we can have kids but not get married.

This makes absolutely no sense to me. My advice to this young lady is to keep it moving and waste not another day with this guy.  Your thoughts? married-couple 2

The Sad State of Relationships

31 Jan

WeddingBandsThe past several days have been interesting as it relates to relationships. I have been tagged to and asked for my opinion on the popular “fake boy/girlfriend app”, the 40-year old woman who married herself, and the text message relationship trend. Every time I hear about something different, outlandish or odd, I think, “well that’s about as far as it goes” then I hear about something else that pushes the envelope. I always say that everything is not for everybody and variety is nice. However, with the recent trends in relationships, I honestly don’t know where we as a society are going. Continue reading

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30 Jul

July 29, 2014

This is a question that was posted on Facebook:

In a marriage, who should pay all the bills, the husband or the wife?

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My edited response:

Depends on the agreement of the husband and wife, every household is different and as someone else mentioned this sounds like a question for a married couple with separate bank accounts.

My thought on it, as husband and wife you have joint bank accounts that all your money goes into, therefore when you are paying bills it is not who is going to pay this bill or that but the combined money pays all the bills.

What are your thoughts?

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Divorce Decree

Food for thought ~ over the years finances have always ranked among the top 3 reasons why couples divorce.

 

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