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Teenagers and Online Dating Apps

18 Jun

I recently saw a story about the dangers of anonymous dating apps; and the deadly consequences they’ve had for some young people. This particular story profiled a teenager who met someone online, he gained her trust and she agreed to secretly meet-up with him. Her parents learned of her secret escapades with this man and intervened and got the authorities involved. This story ended well for this young lady, but not all have been so fortunate. She is still faced with the emotional and psychological consequences of the situation but she is alive.

This story brought to light just how little many parents know of online dating and their teenager’s internet use. When it comes to the internet, social media, and teenagers a parent can never be too careful. The following are a few online dating apps that all parents should know about:

Kik. An instant messaging app similar to texting that has over 90 million users. Safety tips for parents. The app is free and similar to WhatsApp but has an internal browser meant to encourage users to spend more time in the app.

Flirt. This app promotes online “no-hassle flirting” and definitely one parents should know about. It’s relative ease of use makes it a popular one for teens.

Tinder. Swipe right to “like” or left to “pass”. Tinder is a photo and messaging dating app where the user browse and either like or pass on pictures of individuals that are within a certain mile radius of them. If two people both “like” each other’s photo, the app allows them to message each other.

Skout.  This is another “flirting” app and allows teens to set-up profiles. The teens are placed in a separate group from the adult users and are allowed to post to a feed, comment on other user’s posts, chat and share photos. Users can redeem or cash in points when they want details on who checks them out or want to search outside of their geographic area for new users.

Badoo. This is an adults only dating app that is meant for the 18 and older audience. This app has over 200 million users worldwide and tracks the location of its users and matches their profiles to other users who are nearby.

This is not an exhaustive list but some of the more popular sites that teens are using.

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Congratulations Michelle Williams and Pastor Chad Johnson

19 Apr

Congrats are in order for Destiny’s Child Michelle Williams and former Youth Pastor and Professional Sports Chaplain, Pastor Chad Johnson! The couple formally announced that they are engaged to be married this summer. For those who have been with this blog family for a couple of years, you may remember, Terry Cato’s interview with Pastor Chad on his call to ministry, relationship status and career.

Pastor Chad is a friend of Relationships-411 and we wish both him and Mich

Credit: Austin and Nicole Barkis / Barkis and Co.

Michelle Williams and Chad Johnson Credit: Austin and Nicole Barkis / Barkis and Co.

elle nothing but love, happiness and success!

More:

Michelle Williams is Engaged! 

Michelle reveals why she waited to tell Beyonce and Kelly about her relationship

Karma is a Bih!

12 Apr

That’s right, karma is a bih; and I don’t feel sorry for Khole Kardashian. Not that she needs my pity – she has her sisters and her gazillion fans, they got her. Unless you’ve been out of the country or under a rock, you have probably heard by now the confirmed rumors that her NBA boyfriend and baby daddy, Tristan Thompson has been caught cheating with among others an “Instagram Model” and stripper.

When it comes to infidelity in relationships, I was taught that the same way you got him will be the same way you lose him. We all remember Khloe proudly displaying her relationship with Thompson across social media while his very pregnant ex-girlfriend was due to give birth to their son. However, I don’t think Khloe ever thought she would be in a similar predicament.

Much respect to Tristan’s ex who quietly moved on with her life and allowed him the space to flaunt his new relationship with Khloe while she birthed and cared for their son. I love her response  to the debacle, “If you respect yourself and you respect others, you would never make light of the misfortune of anyone, nor would you feel indemnified when it comes at the expense of others. Wishing peace for everyone.” Such a classy response. On the other hand, its human nature and we all know that she is basking in a sea of private gratification right now. Go on girl, you deserve it.

No matter how Khloe decides to move forward, I really do wish her the best. Everyone deserves to be happy and have the desires of their heart. Best wishes.

redtues_brokenheartFor More: Khloe Kardashian gives birth to first child

Inside Tristan Thompson’s Life Before Khloe Kardashian: Girlfriends, Scandals and His Road to NBA Riches
Pregnant Khloé ‘went ballistic’ when she found out about Tristan’s cheating
Tristan Thompson Booed During First Game Since Allegations He Cheated on Pregnant Khloé Kardashian 

Leave Abuse And Never Look Back

27 Mar

I recall the time my ex-fiancé told me that I would never find someone who would treat me as good as he did. For a moment I believed him, then I found my strength and left him.

Ladies (and men) never stay in an abusive relationship for fear of being alone or lonely. You can be in a relationship and still be lonely or unfulfilled. Abuse comes in many forms not just physical; but include: emotional, psychological, and financial.redtues_brokenheart

My ex never physically abused me but was very abusive with his words and the way he treated me. I realize, it’s not easy to leave the abuse or abuser, but you must. Your life (literally) depends on it!

When I broke things off, my ex said, “I will always be a part of your life.” I responded, “no you won’t.” After our conversation, I blocked his number and email and have never looked back.

I am now happily married to a wonderful man, someone far better than I had ever imagined or dreamed of.

Should a Man Date If he is Struggling with His Finances?

12 Dec

A little something I found while trolling the internet. 😊 Your thoughts, should a man date if he is struggling with his finances?

Social Media is Ruining My Relationship!

7 Jan

The other day, I was listening to a local radio show during my morning commute and the discussion for the day was about a comment that someone sent to the Show Hosts stating that, “…social media is ruining my relationship.”

In summation, the person was very insecure that her boyfriend had so many female friends on Facebook and Instagram; especially since he was – in her words – always posting suggestive photos and enjoyed the attention he gets from the women in the form of “likes.”

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What are your thoughts? Is the boyfriend wrong for enjoying this type of attention? Or is the girlfriend being overly sensitive?

 

 

Relationship Hot Topics

21 Nov

As we approach the season of love, (Christmas through Valentine’s Day) where a lot of couples historically get engaged, if I was a betting person – I would bet that half of the couples who will get engaged and then married do not discuss these critical topics BEFORE getting married:

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  1. Finances – who will manage the finances, how will bank accounts be set-up and managed;
  2. Sex – their view on sex (frequency, preferences/likes, dislikes);
  3. Children – how many they will have and/or how they will raise them;
  4. Faith or lack of – their belief system and commitment to their faith;
  5. Career aspirations/dreams/goals – some people actually talk about their career aspirations with their future spouse, but most fail to discuss their dreams and wants.

If this is you – you have become recently engaged to be married, talk about everything. Don’t just cover the obvious basics: the past, family dynamics, and failed relationships. Discuss sensitive issues, such as your spending habits and view on money/finances; how many children you want and how you will discipline them, how you will introduce them to your faith, etc.; and don’t be afraid to share your dreams with your future spouse.

Communication is KEY in marriage. The foundation for good communication should be laid long before you say “I do”.

 

Real Talk w/Terry: Relationships 101, Part 2

23 Jun

I’m excited to share part 2 of my panel discussion with co-eds at San Jose State University. I truly enjoyed my time interviewing the students; we talked about everything from the Tinder app and the perceived hook-up culture of  millennial’s to should they date someone with kids.

Enjoy!

And FOLLOW the Relationships-411 Real Talk w/Terry YouTube channel.

Why Cheat?

10 Jun

I read something on social media the other day, where a person posed the following question, “why do men cheat with a woman who has a nasty house with a Raid bottle behind the sofa?!” Another person responded, “because men are looking for a good lay and women are looking for an upgrade when they cheat.” Wow!…

IMG_7860(1)I don’t know if this theory is true, but it certainly made me laugh out loud; or as the younger generation says, “it made me LOL.” All jokes aside, is this true? In situations that I know of where men have cheated on good women, this seemed true. That the men were cheating down – messing over a good woman for trash. And the opposite seemed to be true for women. In situations where the woman cheated, it was usually for someone who treated her better than the man she was with.

Your thoughts. Do men cheat down and women cheat up? no-cheating

 

 

Relationships 101

13 May

I recently had the opportunity to interview a co-ed panel at San Jose State University for my show Real Talk w/Terry. We discussed dating, relationships and life on campus.

For part one of the panel discussion, tune in and join in on the conversation:

If you’re in the Bay Area, catch Real Talk w/Terry on Sunday evenings at 5:00 p.m. on Comcast 15. And follow host, Terry Cato on Twitter and Instagram @terry411cato for daily inspiration and to discuss show topics.

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