Tag Archives: RELATIONSHIPS 411

Do You Know Who Your Family Member is Dating?

1 Sep

By: Alice Curt

When someone in your family starts dating, you want to know if he/she is making the right choice and their safety is not compromised. But with technology enabled modern dating, that can be difficult to guarantee.

Online Dating
Nowadays, it’s not uncommon for people to meet and form relationships online. In fact, Esquire mentioned that young adults and 55-65 year olds are the most active users of online dating services. As this convenient way of meeting people started to take off, new dangers have also appeared. There are people who create fake profiles to scam others. Harassment is also a real risk as well as identity theft or fraud. These potential scenarios make it hard not to ask about a family member’s dating life. That’s why Relationships-411 previously listed apps that guardians should know about.

What To Do
In spite of our protective nature, it’s important that you give your loved one enough space. Reality-based dating shows have influenced us to be curious of other people’s romantic lives. The Bachelor, for instance, is still running strong after 22 seasons. The British series Love Island is another program with the same goal, as contestants in the show aim to find romance. Ladbrokes notes that the latest season’s most loved couple are Jack Fincham and Dani Dyer. They are a perfect example of having limits on prying into a family member’s relationship. Dani’s father, actor Danny Dyer, anonymously asked about the private details of his daughter’s relationship on the radio. Thankfully, Dani didn’t kiss and tell. If shows like the aforementioned still pique our interest in strangers’ dating lives, it’s not hard to understand why people would want to know about their loved ones’ relationships, especially if it will help keep them safe.

US News suggests striking a balance between talking and listening, making sure not to impose your own feelings on your loved one. Trust their judgment and that you’ve taught them well about the dangers of modern dating. Unless the person they’re dating is outright putting them in harm’s way, just be supportive of who they choose to be with.

About Alice: Tech enthusiast. Gamer. Blogger. Music Lover.

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Karma is a Bih!

12 Apr

That’s right, karma is a bih; and I don’t feel sorry for Khole Kardashian. Not that she needs my pity – she has her sisters and her gazillion fans, they got her. Unless you’ve been out of the country or under a rock, you have probably heard by now the confirmed rumors that her NBA boyfriend and baby daddy, Tristan Thompson has been caught cheating with among others an “Instagram Model” and stripper.

When it comes to infidelity in relationships, I was taught that the same way you got him will be the same way you lose him. We all remember Khloe proudly displaying her relationship with Thompson across social media while his very pregnant ex-girlfriend was due to give birth to their son. However, I don’t think Khloe ever thought she would be in a similar predicament.

Much respect to Tristan’s ex who quietly moved on with her life and allowed him the space to flaunt his new relationship with Khloe while she birthed and cared for their son. I love her response  to the debacle, “If you respect yourself and you respect others, you would never make light of the misfortune of anyone, nor would you feel indemnified when it comes at the expense of others. Wishing peace for everyone.” Such a classy response. On the other hand, its human nature and we all know that she is basking in a sea of private gratification right now. Go on girl, you deserve it.

No matter how Khloe decides to move forward, I really do wish her the best. Everyone deserves to be happy and have the desires of their heart. Best wishes.

redtues_brokenheartFor More: Khloe Kardashian gives birth to first child

Inside Tristan Thompson’s Life Before Khloe Kardashian: Girlfriends, Scandals and His Road to NBA Riches
Pregnant Khloé ‘went ballistic’ when she found out about Tristan’s cheating
Tristan Thompson Booed During First Game Since Allegations He Cheated on Pregnant Khloé Kardashian 

Relationships-411’s Founder Terry Cato

6 Apr

I was honored to be featured on the Cal-State East Bay’s blog site recently.

Full article here:

http://www.csueastbay.edu/news/2018/01/01302018.html

Marriage Advice from a Kid

4 Apr

Love this!

Question of the Day

29 Mar

Would you leave your dream job and move to be with your true love?

I almost did this in my twenties; leave my dream job in sports and entertainment and move across the country to be with my College Sweetheart. I got cold feet and continued to pursue my career. The relationship didn’t work out.

Leave Abuse And Never Look Back

27 Mar

I recall the time my ex-fiancé told me that I would never find someone who would treat me as good as he did. For a moment I believed him, then I found my strength and left him.

Ladies (and men) never stay in an abusive relationship for fear of being alone or lonely. You can be in a relationship and still be lonely or unfulfilled. Abuse comes in many forms not just physical; but include: emotional, psychological, and financial.redtues_brokenheart

My ex never physically abused me but was very abusive with his words and the way he treated me. I realize, it’s not easy to leave the abuse or abuser, but you must. Your life (literally) depends on it!

When I broke things off, my ex said, “I will always be a part of your life.” I responded, “no you won’t.” After our conversation, I blocked his number and email and have never looked back.

I am now happily married to a wonderful man, someone far better than I had ever imagined or dreamed of.

Why Millennials Cheat

10 Aug

A recent study asserts that Millennials cheat for two primary reasons: 1) they feel that their partner is not satisfying their needs and 2) they want more independence.

Read full study here:
http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/millenials-cheat-partners-two-reasons-relationships-infidelity-independence-interdependence-study-a7882076.html

Soccer Player Shoutouts Wife & Girlfriend! 

21 Mar

Have you seen this video?! Moral of the story: Don’t have a girlfriend if you have a wife – unless they are one and the same. 

Real Talk w/Terry: Relationships 101, Part 2

23 Jun

I’m excited to share part 2 of my panel discussion with co-eds at San Jose State University. I truly enjoyed my time interviewing the students; we talked about everything from the Tinder app and the perceived hook-up culture of  millennial’s to should they date someone with kids.

Enjoy!

And FOLLOW the Relationships-411 Real Talk w/Terry YouTube channel.

Saved – Single – Satisfied

1 Oct

I’m pleased to announce that I recently launched the YouTube channel, Relationships-411 that will compliment this blog. I am humbled and honored at how this journey continues to unfold. Every step of the way God has opened doors and paved the way.

I pray you enjoy this episode of Real Talk w/ Terry where I sit down with Elder Paulette Harper, founder of My Sister’s Keeper Ministries and Pastor Sheyna Heard, Senior Pastor of Rohi Christian Church who discuss being single women in leadership in ministry.

Enjoy!

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