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Congratulations Michelle Williams and Pastor Chad Johnson

19 Apr

Congrats are in order for Destiny’s Child Michelle Williams and former Youth Pastor and Professional Sports Chaplain, Pastor Chad Johnson! The couple formally announced that they are engaged to be married this summer. For those who have been with this blog family for a couple of years, you may remember, Terry Cato’s interview with Pastor Chad on his call to ministry, relationship status and career.

Pastor Chad is a friend of Relationships-411 and we wish both him and Mich

Credit: Austin and Nicole Barkis / Barkis and Co.

Michelle Williams and Chad Johnson Credit: Austin and Nicole Barkis / Barkis and Co.

elle nothing but love, happiness and success!

More:

Michelle Williams is Engaged! 

Michelle reveals why she waited to tell Beyonce and Kelly about her relationship

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Karma is a Bih!

12 Apr

That’s right, karma is a bih; and I don’t feel sorry for Khole Kardashian. Not that she needs my pity – she has her sisters and her gazillion fans, they got her. Unless you’ve been out of the country or under a rock, you have probably heard by now the confirmed rumors that her NBA boyfriend and baby daddy, Tristan Thompson has been caught cheating with among others an “Instagram Model” and stripper.

When it comes to infidelity in relationships, I was taught that the same way you got him will be the same way you lose him. We all remember Khloe proudly displaying her relationship with Thompson across social media while his very pregnant ex-girlfriend was due to give birth to their son. However, I don’t think Khloe ever thought she would be in a similar predicament.

Much respect to Tristan’s ex who quietly moved on with her life and allowed him the space to flaunt his new relationship with Khloe while she birthed and cared for their son. I love her response  to the debacle, “If you respect yourself and you respect others, you would never make light of the misfortune of anyone, nor would you feel indemnified when it comes at the expense of others. Wishing peace for everyone.” Such a classy response. On the other hand, its human nature and we all know that she is basking in a sea of private gratification right now. Go on girl, you deserve it.

No matter how Khloe decides to move forward, I really do wish her the best. Everyone deserves to be happy and have the desires of their heart. Best wishes.

redtues_brokenheartFor More: Khloe Kardashian gives birth to first child

Inside Tristan Thompson’s Life Before Khloe Kardashian: Girlfriends, Scandals and His Road to NBA Riches
Pregnant Khloé ‘went ballistic’ when she found out about Tristan’s cheating
Tristan Thompson Booed During First Game Since Allegations He Cheated on Pregnant Khloé Kardashian 

Relationships-411’s Founder Terry Cato

6 Apr

I was honored to be featured on the Cal-State East Bay’s blog site recently.

Full article here:

http://www.csueastbay.edu/news/2018/01/01302018.html

Question of the Day

29 Mar

Would you leave your dream job and move to be with your true love?

I almost did this in my twenties; leave my dream job in sports and entertainment and move across the country to be with my College Sweetheart. I got cold feet and continued to pursue my career. The relationship didn’t work out.

Public Shaming: To Shame or Not to Shame

8 Aug

photo1I’ve recently seen these images floating around social media. I’m not sure how effective spousal public shaming is, but I definitely got a laugh out of this.

Your thoughts on a spouse or ex-spouse public shaming the other.

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Happy Valentine’s Day

14 Feb

Did you know that Valentine’s Day is the second most popular card sending holiday after Christmas?

Whether you have a Valentine or not, don’t forget to take a little time out today and let those who you love know how much you care; not just today, but every opportunity you get. Life is short. Valentines box

I want my flowers while I’m alive to enjoy them!

Good Guys Finish Last

18 Jan

A few days ago, I was watching my favorite version of Charlie and the Chocolate Factory starring Gene Wilder. As each of the Golden Tickets were found, I found myself feeling a sense of disappointment and let down as if I was Charlie and in the movie. Thinking “perhaps, Charlie is feeling the same way as I do that all of the children who found golden tickets appear to be either spoiled rotten, ungrateful and/or entitled”.   After it was determined that the 5th ticket found was a fraud, sheer luck – and perhaps fate – allowed Charlie to be the final child who found a golden ticket. Oh how my heart jumped for joy thinking, “yes! A good humble kid will get to tour the chocolate factory!”

charlie-and-the-chocolate-factoryOftentimes, art imitates life and life imitates art. As I watched this movie, I thought to myself how often this plot line in a movie actually happens in real life. That the very people who seem ungrateful and entitled seem to always have good things happen to them; and those who seem to need “a break or a chance” almost never find those golden ticket moments in life.  As I continued watching the movie, and each of the 4 rotten kids met untimely exits from the factory tour before it is over, I again compare this phenomenon to real life that quite often those who are given golden opportunities and are unappreciative and ungrateful for the opportunity that they have been given will often time find themselves make a premature exit from or squander the opportunity.

There are countless professional athletes – too many to name – who fit this bill. They were given amazing opportunities to play professional sports, made millions of dollars, only to find themselves bankrupt shortly after retiring from the league. I’m also reminded of a young lady who received a college scholarship to attend one of the top institutions in the Nation – an Ivy League University. Instead of being appreciative of the opportunity she had been given, she somehow got involved with drug dealers and a murder – was subsequently kicked out of school, lost her scholarship, and sentenced to prison. There are countless athletes who are probably just as good as or better than some guys who made it to the big leagues but for one reason or another were not afforded the opportunity to play at the professional level or other students who were probably just a qualified for the scholarship but were not chosen, who would have greatly benefited from a scholarship to an Ivy League institution and would have not only been appreciative of this amazing and rare opportunity but would have used it to change the course of their lives and not end up worse than when they started.

That being said, I’m hopeful with the way Charlie and the Chocolate Factory ended. The story ended with Charlie, the good guy, inheriting the Chocolate Factory and being able to have his entire family live with him – what an amazing blessing! I know, this is a story, a mere fairy tale. But quite often, life imitates art and art imitates life.

I recall being single, and I remember a time when it seemed as if all the good men were either married or attached;  and thinking what slim pickings there are in the single men pool. I knew that there were “good guys” out there but I seemed to rarely come across any who were available. After going through heart-break and disappointment, I kept the faith knowing that when true love manifested itself, I would know beyond a shadow of a doubt that God had indeed blessed!

There are plenty of “Charlie’s” out there who were given a golden opportunity in life and they made the most of it. I know, I’m one of them!

2015 In Review

1 Jan

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2015 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

A New York City subway train holds 1,200 people. This blog was viewed about 6,400 times in 2015. If it were a NYC subway train, it would take about 5 trips to carry that many people.

Click here to see the complete report.

Do Strong Women Intimidate Men?

19 Nov

I recently moderated a male panel which consisted of single, very eligible bachelors and the question or old adage came up, “do strong women intimidate men?” Inter-racial couple-2

Several women felt like they were having a hard time connecting with or simply meeting men who were on their level economically, socially and culturally. One of the male panel members brought up an interesting point, in summation, he stated that the “strong ‘black’ woman” persona was overrated and in many situations was a façade or cover-up for what really is insecurity. Your thoughts?

Be on the look-out for the full male panel discussion which will post in a couple of weeks on Relationships-411. Or Catch the Male Panel episode on Real Talk w/ Terry, Comcast 15 at 5:00 p.m. Sunday evenings in the Bay Area.

Saved – Single – Satisfied

1 Oct

I’m pleased to announce that I recently launched the YouTube channel, Relationships-411 that will compliment this blog. I am humbled and honored at how this journey continues to unfold. Every step of the way God has opened doors and paved the way.

I pray you enjoy this episode of Real Talk w/ Terry where I sit down with Elder Paulette Harper, founder of My Sister’s Keeper Ministries and Pastor Sheyna Heard, Senior Pastor of Rohi Christian Church who discuss being single women in leadership in ministry.

Enjoy!

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